According to facebook:
If I reject a friend request, will they find out?
No. When you reject someone, their friend request will leave your list of friendships to confirm, but they will not be notified.
However, I have found a way to find out if someone has rejected you or not.
- Login to facebook, and click on “privacy” on the upper right corner.
- Click on “poke, message, and friend request settings”
- Then on the lower right corner, you should see a “People who can see your profile”
- The people listed there are the ones that you have added, but have not accept or reject you.
So, if you have requested to be added on someone’s friend list, but always get a “friend requested” on the status page, but the name isn’t listed from the “Poke, message, and friend request settings” page, then you have been denied.
Can someone give an update of the above steps to find out who has accepted/rejected your friend request. I believe it may be slightly different with the new facebook. I can’t seem to find an option for “poke, message and friend request settings”, nor can I find a “people who can see your profile” option.
Yes, I echo that request!
We have conducted an experiment. If someone has rejected your friend request it will be gone – so if you do a search for them, find their listing and can re-request, then they have rejected it. If you decide to withdraw your friend request (something I wanted to do) then go to your privacy settings and block, then unblock (if you want to) that person you made the request with. We have experimented with this and your friend request will have disappeared. It makes you feel a lot better if you have made a request that you later on regret.
Are you sure about this Anna? I’ve tried re-requesting and it says my request is still pending. So this means it hasn’t been outright rejected?
I’m asking because it’s a friend I still talk to, but this weird internet stuff is going on.
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Thanks so much for the information Anna. I have come across 2 people who still said “friend pending”. If you can’t add me after several weeks you are either a) a jerk or b)not into fb & i don’t want ya anyhow.
I feel like the control is back in my hands! I don’t like getting snubbed electronically (on purpose or by accident)…
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you can see all pending friend requests by going to your “friends” list. anyone listed in the list is either a current or pending friend. you can go in the search box and type in the friends name who is pending and it will show the status as either “pending” or the friend simply is not displayed.
or — you can just search a friend’s name in the search box for a general search. when you bring up their profile, it will show “friend request pending”
It’s easy…
Go to your friends list.
In the search box on the left, type in the name of the person you requested.
Under their little picture it should say friend request pending.
To the right of their picture is a cross.
If you hover your mouse over the cross it will say “delete friend request?”
Then you click yes and they are gone!
This is how I deleted a request for Humphrey B Bear when he took too long to respond… bastard: )
Thanks Linda Parri, it worked
If they have email notifications won’t they still get an email notifying them of your friend request.
I was just wondering this too, because when I go back to the persons page (which is blocked from non-friends) it still has the Add as Friend button at the top, but nothing saying it is requested or pending.
However, in the search results for a person if they still have not Accepted or Ignored it then to the right it will say “Friend Requested” and “Send a Message”
Also I believe if they have not accepted or ignored their name will pop up in the search field when you start typing it in, just like people that are already friends do when you start typing their names.
Hi, this is interesting. This is in relation to the above. I sent a friends request to an ex. 10 minutes later I thought better, and decided to ‘delete’ ie ticked the cross at the side.
The next day, I recieved a ‘friends request’ from her. Now my head has been going into overdrive about this. A little bit annoyed at this if it is a facebook issue. If it is I will need to accept it. Feels strange though.
Now, I was at a dance that night and she may have been feeling the same way and gave me a friends request. However if for some reason my ‘frinds request to her (that, as I say 10 minutes later i had deleted) had went through should it not have came through as she had accpeted this, rather than a ‘friends request’ from her to me. Baffled …a little yes hah
If anyone can shed any light on this that would be good. Thanks
When you request to be friends with someone and this person did not accept you yet it shows on your friend list as ” friends pending request”, can other people see that? or this is only for my information?
In another words, if someone wanna see my friends list, can they see all my pending requets also???
i couldn’t find poke,messege,friend reques setting….can u help me pls
HOW TO TELL IF FRIEND REQUEST HAS BEEN REJECTED IN FACEBOOK:
When you select someone on Facebook to be your friend there are 3 options listed on the far right-side of the box containing their information:
- Add as Friend
- Send a Message
- View Friends
If you choose the Add as Friend option this person will become your friend after they confirm your request. The person can also choose to ignore your request and not add you as a friend.
If you are not quickly added as a friend, how do you know if the person has ignored your request, or has not seen it or is contemplating a response?
After making the Add as Friend option, that option will become grayed out and change to Friend Requested.
So long as it is grayed out and says ‘Friend Requested’ you have not been ignored. If the person chooses to ignore your request, that option will again revert to Add as Friend – a live option you can click on.
If you go to that person’s home page, a message stating “Awaiting friend confirmation” will indicate that they are still considering your request (or they haven’t seen your request yet)
If you go to that person’s home page, and the “Add as Friend” still appears as a live link, it means that this person has rejected your request.
Of course, making another request after being ignored can get you reported to Facebook, but that is how you know if your friend request has been ignored or not. If you still see Friend Requested the friend request is pending. If you have the option of adding the person as a friend you have unfortunately been ignored. If your friend request is accepted, glorious day, you will be notified through Facebook.
Bryan, what if the person you sent the request to doesn’t want you to know that he/she for whatever reason doesn’t want to be friends with you on Facebook but also doesn’t want you to know that to that extent.
In that situation he/she could just leave the invitation pending forever, that is, not accepting it, nor ignoring it. It’s a cynical way to deal with it, but it happens.
How do you know when something similar is happening to you ?
1. You have sent the request a long time ago
2. There is evidence the person you sent it to has activity since then, either by being able to see her/his wall or if she/he doens not allow that, especially if you can either see an increasing number of her/his friends on her/his profile, or, even if you can’t becasue she/he does not allow that also, more amazingly, that information shows up in your news feed (it happens, even while your request is pending, maybe it is a Facebook glitch). That is, the person you sent the request to has been online, signed on to Facebook, and accepting others’ invitations, but leaving yours unanswered.
Cynical, but it happens.